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How to Plan a Surprise Wedding

surprise-wedding"Surprise! We’re getting married."

You’ve probably been to a surprise party or two in your life, but the surprise wedding is a less common event (unless you’re hanging out with the likes of Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively or Leighton Meester and Adam Brody).

The idea is simple: invite friends and family to a party - to celebrate your engagement, your birthday, your anniversary, a holiday, etc. - and don’t tell them until they arrive that you are actually exchanging his and hers rings in just a few minutes. Surprise indeed!

The Pros

For some couples, a surprise wedding it is the perfect medium between a big traditional wedding and eloping. Your loved ones still get to be there for your special day, but you alleviate a lot of the pressure and stress that can go along with wedding planning. You can do what you want as a couple, without too many outside opinions on where it should be, who should be invited, what style reception you should have, etc. The surprise factor may also help you keep the guest list down and save money on the things that aren’t as important to you (not to mention on save-the-dates and invitations!).

The Cons

It can be challenging to keep something so big under wraps. You might also ruffle some feathers if you leave close friends or family members in the dark until the wedding day. Since a gift registry would blow the surprise, it’s also less likely that you’ll receive gifts (though some guests might send you a gift after the fact).

Tips on Planning a Surprise Wedding

1. Decide who is in the know.

Hint: tell as few people as possible! Make a short list of insiders - perhaps your parents and your siblings - and stick to it. Make sure you tell your vendors that it’s a secret as well! This lowers the chance that someone will accidentally spill the beans so the event stays a surprise.

2. Create a decoy event.

To get your guests to arrive at your wedding, you’ll need a good excuse for a party. You might want to plan this around the holidays when you would be getting together with friends and family anyway, or you can create a cover story with a different celebratory party. Make it clear that there is a specific start time and suggested attire so no one is embarrassed later.

3. Hire a wedding day coordinator.

Even if you don’t have a wedding planner to help you with all the details leading up to the big day, you will need some help coordinating the actual surprise event. Hire someone to handle all the day-of logistics - from organizing the meal service and the music schedule to moving guests to the right places and making sure the best man has the his and hers rings - so you can relax and enjoy your party.

4. Have fun with it.

One of the best parts of planning a surprise wedding is that you don’t have to go the traditional route at all if you don’t want to. Celebrate the way you want to, whether that’s backyard cookout or a themed costume party.

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