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Is There a Perfect Age to Get Married?
Studies about relationships – especially about what makes them last and thrive (or not) – are fascinating. They often provide insight into how couples are changing, how they’re staying the same and what sets the successful ones apart from the rest.
But at the same time, we should take research with a grain of salt when we apply it to our own lives. One month there’s a study on how couples are more likely to stay together if they eat more leafy greens – then the next, there’s a contradictory study arguing couples will never divorce if they eat a steady diet of crispy bacon. (We’re all secretly hoping the latter study is for real.)
Does Age Matter?
One recent study that has had the Internet all atwitter is one from Nicholas H. Wolfinger, a University of Utah psychologist, for the Institute for Family Studies. Wolfinger analyzed data from the National Survey of Family Growth to see how the age at which couples get married influences whether they stay together or not.
So what age is the sweet spot for exchanging matching wedding bands… and celebrating your silver anniversary down the road?
- Couples who married in their late 20s or early 30s have a decreased risk of divorce
- Couples who get married young have a higher risk for divorce; for example, someone who marries at 25 is over 50% less likely to get divorced than someone who marries at 20
- Couples who wait till later in life also have a higher risk of divorce; those who marry in their mid-30s or later are more likely to divorce than those who marry in their late 20s
The last finding is a surprising one that researchers don’t quite know what to make of yet. Isn’t it better to wait until you know yourself better, as well as what you want in a marriage? But obviously, this study doesn’t mean that if you get married before 25 or after 32, your fate is sealed.
A Washington Post article said it well:
If you wait until your 40s to get married, your relationship is by no means doomed. And waiting until later in life is still a much wiser option that marrying early. Looking at the raw divorce rates, for instance, Wolfinger found that people who married at age 35 or greater had a 19 percent risk of divorce, compared to a 20 percent risk for those aged 20 to 24, and a 32 percent risk for those who married before they were 20.
Another key point of context to note is that overall divorce rates are still on a 30-year decline from their peak in the early 1980s.
So while these studies are always fascinating and good dinnertime conversation starters, there are far more compelling factors when it comes to loving, lasting marriages. There are too many to list here, but just for starters, here are a few predictors of a successful marriage that you do have control over.
What's More Important Than Age
You’re on the same page.
Those big, stay-up-till-2-am-talking subjects? Oh yes, you’ve covered them. You know how you both feel about living in the city vs. moving to the ‘burbs. You have a good gauge on how you both deal with stress and what you consider “clean.” You see eye to eye on all the dealbreakers – kids, careers, values, families, money. And you can handle the quirks and flaws about each other that probably aren’t going to change. You know a lot about one another, and your love is stronger for it.
But you also know you’ll both change over time.
You’re not the exact same person at age 20 or at 40 or at 60 (and thank goodness for that!). You’ll grow and evolve over time, and so will your spouse. The trick is recognizing this and finding a way to grow together and not apart. If you’ve already been through some ups and downs and periods of uncertainty or transition, and you’ve figured out how to ride it out together, you’re already on track.
You’re in it for better, for worse.
You two really take those vows seriously. They’re not just pretty words you say when you’re wearing your Sunday best and slipping on matching wedding bands. For better, for worse. In sickness, in health. As long as you both live. It’s a huge commitment, but you both want to make it, and you can’t wait to build the rest of your lives together.
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My Trio Rings: Your Source for Plus Size Rings
The popularity of plus size fashion has exploded. Instead of trying to conform to the super-skinny body type that graces the covers of fashion magazines, women are celebrating body positivity and acceptance for the beautiful skin they’re in.
Plus size fashion is getting a much-needed makeover, from celebrities like Tess Holliday and Melissa McCarthy launching their own clothing lines to indie fashion bloggers and designers showing glamour knows no size. And it’s about time, too. Even though more than 50% of American women are a size 14 and up, most stores rarely stock above a size 12.
The same is true for bridal rings: Most jewelry companies carry his and hers wedding rings up to the standard women's size of 7 and the men's 10, no larger.
My Trio Rings is proud to offer a wide selection of sizes, including plus size rings, up to size 13 for women and size 16 for men. We know that our customers come in all shapes and sizes, and our products reflect that. You deserve to find the wedding rings of your dreams – without any stress or disappointment to cloud your happiness.
How to Find the Perfect Plus Size Rings
It’s easy to find bridal rings that fit just right.
Our ring size guide will help you determine the right fit. If you aren’t sure of your ring sizes, we’ll be happy to send you a free plastic ring sizer in the mail. We even have an International Ring Size Conversion Chart for our customers abroad.
Once you've found your size, then you can start the fun of choosing his and hers wedding rings that show off your unique character as a couple. Here are just a couple of possible styles that might strike your fancy. Bridal rings are available in sizes 3-13, and men’s rings in sizes 6-16.
Classic: 1/2 Carat Diamond Trio Wedding Ring Set 10k White Gold
Ornate: 1 Carat Diamond Trio Wedding Ring Set 14k Yellow Gold
Elegant: 1/4 Carat Diamond Trio Wedding Ring Set 14k White Gold
Best Sites for Budget Wedding Splurges
Are you dreaming of a day at the spa with your maid of honor? Do you have a honeymoon bucket list that's way out of your price range? Do you wish you could afford that designer wedding gown? Are you frustrated that you can't find beautiful and original wedding accessories within your budget – from affordable wedding rings to vintage-inspired veils?
Some couples feel frustrated planning a budget wedding, because they wish they could stretch their wedding dollars a little further.
But the good news is that it's never been easier to find secret deals to make your wedding dreams come true – even on a tight budget. The Internet to the rescue! Here's what you need to know to get the most out of the web while wedding planning.
Budget Wedding Planning Like a Pro
1. Groupon or Living Social
But both are unpredictable in their offerings, so you won't want to wait until the last minute to find a great deal on your wedding essentials. It's a good idea to make a list of your wedding priorities before you get started.
Depending on how long your engagement will be, you probably want to go ahead and make arrangements for the basics (ceremony site, wedding gown, food, affordable wedding rings) and leave Groupon and Living Social for the elements that allow for a bit more flexibility.
What to Look For
As interesting items become available on Groupon or Living Social, you might find that you're able to get great deals and splurge on things you didn't think you could afford:
- A huge discount at a chic spa to purchase massages for you and your husband-to-be as a wedding gift, or manicures and pedicures for your bridal party.
- An amazing travel deal for a honeymoon destination – think: Costa Rica, Iceland or Australia.
- A fantastic restaurant deal for a girls' night out before the wedding.
Ebay is a great place to start budget wedding shopping, because you can bid just as much as you are willing to pay for an item, and no more. You just enter your maximum bid, and you will find out at the end of the auction whether you won the item you hoped to buy. On Ebay, you can search for just about anything you can think of. Tradesy, OnceWed and PreOwnedWeddingDresses.com also have a fantastic selection of pre-worn (often designer) wedding and bridesmaid dresses.
What to Look For
- A stunning designer wedding dress or bridesmaid dresses for a fraction of the retail price
- A vintage lace veil to complete your bohemian look
- Funky wedding decorations for your reception venue
If you are planning a wedding on a budget, then Etsy is an excellent site for finding lovely, eclectic, handmade touches, often at an excellent price. Independent vendors sell both their own creations and secondhand treasures – whatever your unique budget wedding vision, you are likely to find something creative and beautiful that fits the bill on Etsy.
What to Look For
- A vintage-inspired 1950's wedding dress or bright pink peep-toe pumps
- Custom-designed stickers to place on the bottom of Hershey's Kisses as favors on the reception table
- Handmade photo booth props and decorations
4. My Trio Rings
Of course we couldn't talk about planning a beautiful budget wedding without just a little shameless promotion. It often seems impossible to find authentic and affordable wedding rings that match your unique style, but that's exactly what we offer at My Trio Rings.
What to Look For
- Affordable wedding rings, including customizable engagement rings, wedding bands and trio ring sets
- A flexible, no-fee layaway plan – allowing you to pay on your schedule
- Our 30-day See It, Wear It, Love It return policy
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Reasons You Shouldn’t Have a Wedding Party
One of the many wonderful things about wedding planning in 2015 is that there aren’t any hard and fast rules anymore. You get to do things your way, which often means blending the traditional with the new: wearing your grandmother’s wedding dress but buying your bridal set rings online, hosting a formal sit-down dinner at your reception but sending eco-friendly paperless invitations.
Modern couples have a lot more freedom to create customized weddings. Together you can choose which traditions are meaningful to you and which new symbols and practices you want to adopt.
Having a wedding party, like many other “must-haves” from the past, is optional and up to you as a couple. Are you on the fence about having bridesmaids and groomsmen? Here are six reasons you might want to consider opting out.
You’re just not into the whole wedding party thing.
If this is the case, then it should be an easy decision. If you’re not excited about the idea of bridesmaids and groomsmen, skip the wedding party. There’s no rule that you have to go that route, and you’ll just create unnecessary stress for yourself.
You’re having a low-key wedding.
If you’re striving for a casual affair, you might not want the formality of a traditional wedding party. Instead of choosing bridesmaids and groomsmen, you could incorporate your nearest and dearest into your wedding in other ways. For example, asking your sister and best friend to help you get ready before the ceremony or your best guy friends to do a short toast at the reception. Skipping the wedding party lets everyone relax and have fun.
You and your friends are on a budget.
Let’s be honest: a wedding party can be expensive for everyone involved. Bridesmaids have to buy dresses, shoes and accessories. Groomsmen have to rent tuxes or suits. Everyone has to pay for plane tickets, hotel rooms, gifts and other extras. And you and your spouse-to-be will also end up throwing down some cash for hair and makeup artists, dinners out, wedding party gifts, etc. All these expenses are worthwhile if you truly want to have your closest friends and family in your wedding party. If not, they can feel like a burden.
You don’t want one more thing to organize.
You two have a lot to juggle with your wedding planning, from bridal set rings to hotel room blocks. If wrangling a wedding party is going to be just another item on your to-do list, then opt out.
You don’t want to pick favorites.
Choosing who stands next to you as you say your vows can be an emotional and difficult task. You may have a large group of close friends from different parts of your life, and you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by picking a select few for your wedding party. If you want to avoid any drama, keep it simple.
You want the focus to be on your union.
At its core, your wedding day is about you two making a lifelong commitment to each other. Everything else is just gravy. Your friends and family will be honored to be there to support you when you say your vows – whether or not they’re in your official wedding party.
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Fact or Fiction? 5 Die-Hard Myths about the Diamond Engagement Ring
The down-on-one-knee, diamond-engagement-ring proposal is a huge part of our culture that we see everywhere – in movies, in our own proposals, in our friends’ Facebook selfies.
But how much do you really know about the diamond engagement ring? Can you tell fact from fiction in this list of common beliefs? Test your knowledge!
1. It’s been a popular symbol of marriage for centuries.
While engagement rings have been around for a long time. But the iconic diamond ring is a pretty recent development.
Rings made from precious metals and other gemstones, such as rubies, emeralds and sapphires, were more common in the past. It wasn’t until the 1930s and 1940s that diamonds took off in popularity.
2. It can be used as insurance in a broken engagement.
File this under: least romantic/most sexist way to look at an engagement.
Back in the day, women were expected to be virgins when they got married. But if an engaged couple had been intimate before the big day and he broke it off, she was left in a bad spot. At that time, she could actually sue him under “breach of promise” laws which started dying out around the time diamond rings gained popularity. The idea behind the promise was that if he walked out, she could still keep the ring!
3. It’s just a clever marketing ploy.
Call it perfect timing (or cause and effect!): just as “breach of promise” laws were becoming obsolete in the US, diamonds were starting to enter the scene as an attractive new alternative. And of course, there was an iconic advertising campaign to move that trend along. With the slogan, “A Diamond is Forever” in 1947, DeBeers kicked off a massive cultural phenomenon. It didn’t take too long for Americans to fall head over heels: in just a few decades, more than 80% of engaged American women sported diamond rings.
4. It’s a waste of money.
There are savvy investors out there who swear diamonds are the new gold. But for most of us, a diamond engagement ring is an emotional symbol, rather than a retirement nest egg.
That said, diamond rings have earned an unfair reputation as poor investments. And it’s simply not true. The common myth is that when you buy a diamond ring, it immediately depreciates. So if you buy a $5,000 diamond engagement ring and try to sell it to the jeweler next door, and he offers you only $3500 for it, you feel like you got a raw deal.
But here’s the thing: the original $5,000 you paid for the ring included the first store’s expenses for keeping it in inventory over time, plus the profit it needs to make to stay in business. The same thing happens when you buy a car from a dealership: the car doesn’t depreciate in value as soon as you drive it off the lot – you have to figure the dealer’s profit into the selling price.
With diamonds, there’s a balance between their initial cost and their long-term value. More affordable stones are still likely to hold their value over time, but larger, more expensive stones will do so more efficiently since they are rarer. So budget-conscious shoppers should manage their expectations realistically, perhaps looking at more affordably priced rings that also have a trade-in option.
5. It’s hard to tell if it’s fake or not.
There’s a rumor that it’s common to get duped with a cheap imitation when buying a diamond ring – especially when you shop online. But it’s actually very easy to weed out the rare scams. Any reputable seller will offer you a certificate of authenticity and for larger purchases its wise to have one from an independent third party such as the Gemological Institute of America – so you know it’s the real deal.
You can also do a few quick, DIY tests on any diamond ring to verify its authenticity. For the “fog test,” simply hold the stone close to your mouth and breathe on it. Diamonds can’t hold heat and should clear up immediately; fake stones will remain foggy. For the “newspaper test,” hold the stone over a piece of fine print on a newspaper. Diamonds refract light in a way that should prevent you from reading the print below; fake stones will allow you to read the words.
Find out more about diamonds and planning the perfect proposal in The Gentleman’s Guide to Proposing.