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Is There a Perfect Age to Get Married?
Studies about relationships – especially about what makes them last and thrive (or not) – are fascinating. They often provide insight into how couples are changing, how they’re staying the same and what sets the successful ones apart from the rest.
But at the same time, we should take research with a grain of salt when we apply it to our own lives. One month there’s a study on how couples are more likely to stay together if they eat more leafy greens – then the next, there’s a contradictory study arguing couples will never divorce if they eat a steady diet of crispy bacon. (We’re all secretly hoping the latter study is for real.)
Does Age Matter?
One recent study that has had the Internet all atwitter is one from Nicholas H. Wolfinger, a University of Utah psychologist, for the Institute for Family Studies. Wolfinger analyzed data from the National Survey of Family Growth to see how the age at which couples get married influences whether they stay together or not.
So what age is the sweet spot for exchanging matching wedding bands… and celebrating your silver anniversary down the road?
- Couples who married in their late 20s or early 30s have a decreased risk of divorce
- Couples who get married young have a higher risk for divorce; for example, someone who marries at 25 is over 50% less likely to get divorced than someone who marries at 20
- Couples who wait till later in life also have a higher risk of divorce; those who marry in their mid-30s or later are more likely to divorce than those who marry in their late 20s
The last finding is a surprising one that researchers don’t quite know what to make of yet. Isn’t it better to wait until you know yourself better, as well as what you want in a marriage? But obviously, this study doesn’t mean that if you get married before 25 or after 32, your fate is sealed.
A Washington Post article said it well:
If you wait until your 40s to get married, your relationship is by no means doomed. And waiting until later in life is still a much wiser option that marrying early. Looking at the raw divorce rates, for instance, Wolfinger found that people who married at age 35 or greater had a 19 percent risk of divorce, compared to a 20 percent risk for those aged 20 to 24, and a 32 percent risk for those who married before they were 20.
Another key point of context to note is that overall divorce rates are still on a 30-year decline from their peak in the early 1980s.
So while these studies are always fascinating and good dinnertime conversation starters, there are far more compelling factors when it comes to loving, lasting marriages. There are too many to list here, but just for starters, here are a few predictors of a successful marriage that you do have control over.
What's More Important Than Age
You’re on the same page.
Those big, stay-up-till-2-am-talking subjects? Oh yes, you’ve covered them. You know how you both feel about living in the city vs. moving to the ‘burbs. You have a good gauge on how you both deal with stress and what you consider “clean.” You see eye to eye on all the dealbreakers – kids, careers, values, families, money. And you can handle the quirks and flaws about each other that probably aren’t going to change. You know a lot about one another, and your love is stronger for it.
But you also know you’ll both change over time.
You’re not the exact same person at age 20 or at 40 or at 60 (and thank goodness for that!). You’ll grow and evolve over time, and so will your spouse. The trick is recognizing this and finding a way to grow together and not apart. If you’ve already been through some ups and downs and periods of uncertainty or transition, and you’ve figured out how to ride it out together, you’re already on track.
You’re in it for better, for worse.
You two really take those vows seriously. They’re not just pretty words you say when you’re wearing your Sunday best and slipping on matching wedding bands. For better, for worse. In sickness, in health. As long as you both live. It’s a huge commitment, but you both want to make it, and you can’t wait to build the rest of your lives together.
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Fact or Fiction? 5 Die-Hard Myths about the Diamond Engagement Ring
The down-on-one-knee, diamond-engagement-ring proposal is a huge part of our culture that we see everywhere – in movies, in our own proposals, in our friends’ Facebook selfies.
But how much do you really know about the diamond engagement ring? Can you tell fact from fiction in this list of common beliefs? Test your knowledge!
1. It’s been a popular symbol of marriage for centuries.
While engagement rings have been around for a long time. But the iconic diamond ring is a pretty recent development.
Rings made from precious metals and other gemstones, such as rubies, emeralds and sapphires, were more common in the past. It wasn’t until the 1930s and 1940s that diamonds took off in popularity.
2. It can be used as insurance in a broken engagement.
File this under: least romantic/most sexist way to look at an engagement.
Back in the day, women were expected to be virgins when they got married. But if an engaged couple had been intimate before the big day and he broke it off, she was left in a bad spot. At that time, she could actually sue him under “breach of promise” laws which started dying out around the time diamond rings gained popularity. The idea behind the promise was that if he walked out, she could still keep the ring!
3. It’s just a clever marketing ploy.
Call it perfect timing (or cause and effect!): just as “breach of promise” laws were becoming obsolete in the US, diamonds were starting to enter the scene as an attractive new alternative. And of course, there was an iconic advertising campaign to move that trend along. With the slogan, “A Diamond is Forever” in 1947, DeBeers kicked off a massive cultural phenomenon. It didn’t take too long for Americans to fall head over heels: in just a few decades, more than 80% of engaged American women sported diamond rings.
4. It’s a waste of money.
There are savvy investors out there who swear diamonds are the new gold. But for most of us, a diamond engagement ring is an emotional symbol, rather than a retirement nest egg.
That said, diamond rings have earned an unfair reputation as poor investments. And it’s simply not true. The common myth is that when you buy a diamond ring, it immediately depreciates. So if you buy a $5,000 diamond engagement ring and try to sell it to the jeweler next door, and he offers you only $3500 for it, you feel like you got a raw deal.
But here’s the thing: the original $5,000 you paid for the ring included the first store’s expenses for keeping it in inventory over time, plus the profit it needs to make to stay in business. The same thing happens when you buy a car from a dealership: the car doesn’t depreciate in value as soon as you drive it off the lot – you have to figure the dealer’s profit into the selling price.
With diamonds, there’s a balance between their initial cost and their long-term value. More affordable stones are still likely to hold their value over time, but larger, more expensive stones will do so more efficiently since they are rarer. So budget-conscious shoppers should manage their expectations realistically, perhaps looking at more affordably priced rings that also have a trade-in option.
5. It’s hard to tell if it’s fake or not.
There’s a rumor that it’s common to get duped with a cheap imitation when buying a diamond ring – especially when you shop online. But it’s actually very easy to weed out the rare scams. Any reputable seller will offer you a certificate of authenticity and for larger purchases its wise to have one from an independent third party such as the Gemological Institute of America – so you know it’s the real deal.
You can also do a few quick, DIY tests on any diamond ring to verify its authenticity. For the “fog test,” simply hold the stone close to your mouth and breathe on it. Diamonds can’t hold heat and should clear up immediately; fake stones will remain foggy. For the “newspaper test,” hold the stone over a piece of fine print on a newspaper. Diamonds refract light in a way that should prevent you from reading the print below; fake stones will allow you to read the words.
Find out more about diamonds and planning the perfect proposal in The Gentleman’s Guide to Proposing.
7 Tips for a Dazzling Engagement Ring Selfie
Be honest. You can’t stop looking at your shiny new diamond engagement ring. She’s a beauty, isn’t she? So sparkly and bright. You and your fiancé are still giddy with the news: you’re getting married!
If you haven’t already shouted it from the mountaintops, you’re probably dying to tell your friends and family. Posting social media is a fun and easy way to share the news with your extended circle, but if your Facebook feed has been an engagement explosion over the last few years, it’s worth putting a little extra thought into how you make your announcement.
(Before you read any further: call your mom and dad if you haven’t already. Then all your close friends and family. Trust me on this one. Some old-fashioned conventions are worth keeping. Your sister will not appreciate hearing the news through Instagram.)
The truth is that while your friends and acquaintances will be happy for you, they don’t want to read a moment-by-moment account of the proposal or see 100 pictures of your diamond engagement ring. What you think of as magical and romantic can come off as braggy and obnoxious if you go too far overboard.
Less is more. Share a single, beautifully shot image with a simple caption, and people will be genuinely excited for you. And you can bask in all the likes and congratulatory messages! Here are some pro tips on how to take a fantastic engagement ring selfie: all you need is your phone, your gorgeous ring and a little imagination.
First, use a microfiber cloth to wipe off your phone’s camera lens. A lot of dust and grime can build up there over time. Take a few test shots to get comfortable with your phone’s settings. Turn off the flash, and turn on the grid feature to make it easier to use the rule of thirds. Set up a small, flexible tripod if you have one (and enlist help from a friend if you need it). Remember you can tap the screen to focus and meter on different parts of the image (for example, if you are trying to get just the right focus and lighting on the setting of your ring). Try not to zoom because you’ll lose clarity in the final image.
Find a background more attractive than your laptop or your messy bedroom. This could be the park where you got engaged, a clear blue sky or a colorful scarf you can drape over a table. Think of what background will complement your diamond engagement ring without distracting from it.
Natural light is your best friend when taking an engagement ring selfie. Go outside or find an area inside that has windows that let in a lot of light. Bright, direct sunlight (especially in the middle of the day) will probably be too harsh and wash out your photo. Look for soft, slightly diffused lighting; the morning or evening are often good times of day. Pay attention to which direction the light is falling, and move to illuminate your ring from the best angle.
A photo showing your hand intertwined with your new fiancé’s is simple but meaningful (and it puts the emphasis on your future together… not just your beautiful ring). Take several different shots with your hands in different positions; try to hold hands in a natural way to avoid looking overly posed.
Pick a favorite feature of your engagement ring – setting, cut, size, etc. – and look for photo angles that show it off. Put on a little lotion, and hold your hand up above your head for 30 seconds before taking your ring selfie to minimize the appearance of veins. Relax your hand slightly – if it’s too tense, you won’t end up with a flattering picture.
Photo filters can bring out the color and sparkle in your engagement ring selfie. Test out different options on your iPhone camera, Instagram or an editing app such as Afterlight. Choose one that is subtle and enhances the natural beauty of your ring.
Now that you have your perfect engagement selfie, you’re ready to publish on social media. Add a sweet caption, and celebrate!
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Summer Sale! 4 Trio Ring Sets We Love
If you and your sweetheart are planning a summer wedding, it’s probably a whirlwind of activity right about now as you settle all the last details. The good news is that one of those decisions is about to get a lot easier! My Trio Rings is having a summer sale, offering huge savings on our already affordable ring sets. Our specials run until a set is sold out or until the end of the month, whichever comes first!
Here are just a few of our favorite trio ring sets that are on sale:
The Center of Attention
2 CT. T.W. Diamond Trio Ring Set in 14K White Gold
This his and hers matching ring set makes a big splash with a modern design and 2 carats in total. The wide wedding bands complement one another, and each is set with six round-cut diamonds. But the real eye-catcher is the engagement ring, which features a striking princess-cut solitaire stone and four round-cut side stones.
A Modern Classic
3/8 Carat T.W. Diamond Trio Ring Set in 10K White Gold
This trio ring set combines contemporary and classic styles for a unique design. It features an engagement ring with a gorgeous halo setting and 27 diamonds, plus elegant wedding bands set with round-cut diamonds.
1 3/8 CT. T.W. Diamond Trio Ring Set in 14K Yellow Gold
This affordable ring set has more than a little bit of classic glitz and glamour, showcasing 81 round-cut diamonds. The engagement ring has a stunning cluster head, and the matching wedding bands stand out with angled geometric shapes and round-cut channel stones.
1 Carat Diamond Trio Ring Set in 14K White Gold
This his and hers matching ring set is both dramatic and delicate, featuring an engagement ring with a sparkling flower head and sleek wedding bands with round-cut side stones.
Browse the affordable ring sets in our summer sale
5 Steps for a Stress-Free Wedding Week
The countdown is on, and you’re just a few days from getting hitched. This is the time in wedding planning that is equal parts exciting and stressful. You can almost kick back, celebrate and enjoy your party, but you still have so many things to do.
With everything going on, it’s easy to get tied up in tension and frustration just before you get married - but that’s probably not how you want to mark this important milestone in your life. Here are a few simple and practical tips to help you keep your sanity and create a happy, stress-free wedding week.
1. Recognize that it’s OK to stop caring about things.
You will probably have at least one moment during this last week where you throw up your hands in exasperation and say, “You know what? Screw it; it doesn’t really matter.” This is OK - healthy even! So you discovered that the 150 programs you ordered have a glaring typo on the first page. Big deal. Or the flowers were underordered by about half. Meh. Embrace these moments of apathy because, really, these things don’t matter in the long run. .
2. Write up a wedding weekend itinerary.
Capture all those pesky wedding planning details running through your head and put them down on paper. Make a bulleted list of everything that needs to happen each day, big and small, and cut out unnecessary items. Mark who is in charge of each task, and delegate as much as you can to your wedding planner or trusted friends and family.
3. Accept that your itinerary will not go as planned.
That said, your carefully crafted plan will inevitably shift in real life. Cross your fingers, be flexible, and try to roll with the changes.
4. Get enough sleep.
Taking care of yourself and getting enough rest can fall by the wayside during the last few days before your wedding, but it’s essential for a stress-free wedding week. Scrap something from your to-do list if necessary, and go to bed at a decent hour. You’d hate to be a zombie on your wedding day or get sick right before your honeymoon.
5. Take some time alone together.
When things start to get crazy, sneak away as a couple for a few quiet moments. Grab an ice cream cone or a coffee - just the two of you - and remember exactly why you’re celebrating.
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