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Marriage Advice from the World’s Longest-Married Couples, Part 2
Sometimes, we all need a little reassurance about the decisions we make in our lives- especially the important ones. And is there a decision more important than who you choose to spend the rest of your life with? I certainly don’t think so. Marriage can be scary, and it’s definitely hard work. But just because it’s hard doesn’t mean it’s impossible.
In fact, some couples are lucky to spend almost their entire lives married to the person they love after they exchange his and hers rings on their wedding day. And, if you’re anything like me, getting advice from these couples instantly reassures me and brightens my day. That’s why I decided to do another post with marriage advice from some of the world’s longest-married couples. Make sure to check out the first post, too!
1. Sally and Joseph Littlewood
These two lovebirds met a whopping 81 years ago at the local hop. That night, he took her for a walk, bought her a Mars bar, and whisked her off her feet. They married in 1939, which means they've been husband and wife for a mind-blowing 75 years. They’ve made it through a lot during their marriage, including a time when they weren’t able to see each other for six years during World War II. Here’s some advice they have for couples looking to exchange one of our customizable ring sets:
- “Argue. Argue lots but always remember to get over it.”
- Know what you want -- “If you’re going to move in with someone, or marry them, you have to know you love them. Everyone is getting divorced these days. They have quick marriages and I just think people do not have what they want.”
2. Lee and Morty Kaufman
This two didn’t exchange his and hers rings until later in life, but they’ve still had a marriage that most of us dream about. You might recognize them from a 2013 Swiffer commercial. In that commercial, they rave about their 44 years of marriage, and it’s clear from the way they talk and look at each other that they adore one another. Here is some of the marriage advice they gave.
- “You have to look out for each other, you really do. If you want a successful marriage, you have to let each other know you love each other, and you have to take care of each other — and we do."
- “We've always just shared what's on our minds with each other in good times and in less-than-perfect times, and that's how we've stuck together so long."
- “Having a little bit of structure if key. We each have our own hobbies and interests -- but make time to do things with each other and friends and family on a regular basis.”
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Tips for Planning a Wedding Last Minute: Little Details, Part 2
As your wedding day approaches, there are a thousand little details competing for your attention. If you are planning a wedding on a short timeline, these details can seem magnified and overwhelming, but don’t despair! We’ve got you covered on: picking a venue, making a selection from gorgeous gold wedding ring sets, finding a dress and starting to narrow down all these last-minute details.
With a few meticulous lists and some help from friends and family, you’ll have it all under control so you can enjoy your beautiful day.
More Little Details for Your Wedding Day
1. Get your marriage license.
Oh that tiny thing? You’d be surprised how easy it is to forget about the legal piece of your wedding slip your mind! Each state has different rules, requirements and waiting periods, so look these up well in advance. For example, when my husband and I got married in Louisiana, I had to order a certified copy of my birth certificate from the county where I was born in California, which took weeks. Call the office in advance to make sure you have everything you need.
2. Make a master wedding-day agenda.
A general rule of thumb is that everything will take a little longer than you think it will when planning a wedding. Ask all of your vendors what timeframes they recommend, as they have valuable expertise to draw from. Think five women can get hair and make-up done in two hours? Think again! Add in some buffer time for each step to cut down on frantic rushing. Write up an agenda and email and print out copies for everyone who is part of the wedding. Have your coordinator (or whichever trusted person you designate taskmaster) keep each step running smoothly.
3. Make a list of items that need to go to the venue or hotel
It’s best to work on this list over the course of a few days, as you will remember little things as you go. Keep a notebook or phone app handy to jot items down as you think of them. Categorize items by steps in the agenda and/or venue, and make note of who is responsible for each. For example, the best man may be in charge of getting the gold wedding band sets to the venue, but the maid of honor is responsible for all hair, make-up and clothes items that need to go to the hotel room.
4. Create tip envelopes
This is a detail you could easily overlook during a whirlwind wedding day. Look at your list of vendors, and decide who you want to tip and how much. Put together labeled envelopes sealed with checks for each vendor, and give them to your wedding coordinator or point person. It’s a good idea to set aside a bit of emergency cash and a checkbook for unforeseen circumstances.
What last-minute tips do you have for planning a wedding?
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Wedding Traditions of the World: Bridal Attire Edition
We’ve written in the past about different wedding traditions and superstitions from around the world, but today I specifically wanted to talk about bridal attire customs.
Most of us dream about our wedding dress from an early age and can’t imagine wearing anything but that one perfect gown when exchanging his and her rings. However, not every bride ends up wearing a white (or white-ish) dress on her wedding day. Different cultures have different traditions, and wedding attire is no exception. Let’s take a look at some of the bridal attire traditions from around the world:
1. Traditional Chinese
In a traditional Chinese wedding, the bride will be wearing a one-piece gown called a qipao, which have been worn since the 17th century. It’s elaborately embroidered with silver and gold designs. It’s typically red as the color red is thought to repel evil spirits and bring good fortune. Here’s another traditional Chinese bridal custom: brides will wear a red, silk veil during her wedding ceremony. The veil is removed by her husband, but not until their wedding night.
2. Traditional Egyptian
A traditional Egyptian wedding dress is so long that the material spreads on the floor. Most of these gowns have embellishments and colorful accents-- gold accents are the most popular, as gold used to be a color used by Egyptian royalty. The gown itself is also often red. Brides also wear a shawl as a headdress because the bride is not allow to show her face to wedding guests. It covers everything except the eyes as she is only to be unveiled for her husband and her family.
3. Traditional Mongolian
At a traditional Mongolian wedding, both the bride and the groom wear a del, a bright garment made of cotton and silk with various patterns. The bride also wears a round, flat headdress that signifies wealth, so she would want it to be as extravagant and ornate as possible.
4. Traditional Indian
Traditionally, Hindu brides wear elaborate red or white saris. The colors represent fertility, wealth, and purity. Most of these are elaborately decorated in sequined patterns. She’ll also have various, intricate henna tattoos on her hands and feet that her female family member painted on in the days leading up to the wedding.
What wedding traditions are you planning on incorporating into your day?
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Innovative Engagement Ring Boxes of the 21st Century
When you are getting ready to propose, you spend a lot of time thinking about engagement rings. That’s natural since there are a lot of choices to be made. For instance, the type of gold and the cut of the diamond...and that’s just two of the many decisions weighing on your mind.
However, until recently, people haven’t thought much about the box that holds the engagement ring set. Maybe that’s because there hasn’t been many other choices beyond the standard, square, bulky ring box. Good news! That’s no longer the case (pun intended). You can now customize your ring box to match the customizable ring set you’ll give your sweetheart. Take a look at these innovative engagement ring boxes:
1. Ring Cam
If you’re a technology fanatic, Ring Cam might be a perfect fit for your proposal. This isn’t just an ordinary ring box. It’s a ring box that can record your proposal from start to finish. Capture your partner’s surprised reaction when you get down on one knee, and you’ll be able to relive your proposal with friends and family. All you have to do is press a button to start recording.
Have you ever thought about how bulky ring boxes are? That can present a major problem when you are trying to plan a surprise proposal and have to worry about where to store the cumbersome box without it being noticed. That’s where packaging designer Andrew Zo stepped in. His creation, the “Clifton,” is an engagement ring box that’s just 1 centimeter thick and resembles a wallet. When you open it up, the ring blooms like a flower in a beautiful spinning motion. This box retails for $99, but that price might be well worth the look of utter surprise on your sweetheart’s face.
3. Create Your Own!
Want a ring box that’s as unique as our customizable ring sets? Then put on your thinking hat! Instead of using a traditional box, brainstorm other things that you can use to present the engagement ring set. For example, if your love is a bibliophile, then you could buy a copy of her favorite book (don’t use her prized copy!) and carve out a section for the engagement ring. Try to think of things that unite you as a couple. Maybe you two fell in love after bonding over your Harry Potter obsession. If so, a replica of the Sorting Hat might be the perfect way to ask your partner to permanently become a part of your house. What ideas can you come up with?
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Marriage Advice from the World’s Longest-Married Couples, Part 1
Marriage is one of the most wonderful gifts in the world, but it is definitely not easy. Giving your whole heart and the rest of your life to just one person might sometimes seem scary or even impossible. But don’t throw away those customizable engagement rings yet! Think about how nice it is to see couples who have done it and lived to tell the tale. There’s nothing that brings a smile to my face as quickly as seeing an elderly couple hold hands. There’s just something about it.
So, if you’re nervous about marriage, maybe it’s a good idea to ask for some advice and words of encouragement from loved ones you know who have had those his and hers wedding bands on for a long time. Before that though, you should check out these beautiful pieces of marriage advice from two of the world’s longest married couples.
Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher
Let’s start with Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher, who were once the longest married couple in the entire world! In fact, they broke The Guinness World Record for the longest marriage! These two lovebirds were married for a whopping 87 years. In 2010, they did a Twitter Q&A where they gave some great advice. Here are some of the best tidbits:
“Remember marriage is not a contest – never keep a score.”
“We grew up together and were best friends before we married. A friend is for life; our marriage has lasted a lifetime.”
“Respect, support, and communicate with each other. Be faithful, honest, and true. Love each other with ALL of your heart.”
Jon and Ann Betar
This couple eloped on November 25, 1932, and they actually weren’t ever supposed to be married in the first place! Ann’s father had arranged for her to marry a man 20 years older than her. And, when she ended up eloping with Jon, the father told her previously betrothed not to worry--that the marriage wouldn’t last. Boy, was he wrong. In this article, Jon and Ann pass on some of the wisdom they've accrued over the years, including:
“Devote your time to understanding one another.”
“Be content with what you have and what you’re doing.”
“Marriage isn’t a lovey-dovey think, y’know, for 80 years. You learn to accept one another’s way of life.”
Stay tuned for the next part in this series that will have even more marriage advice for you to ponder! In the meantime, take a look at our customizable engagement rings and our his and hers wedding bands.