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Do Budget Weddings Lead to Stable Marriages?
A lavish fairy tale wedding may not lead to a fairy tale marriage, according to a new study.
Researchers at Emory University studied 3,000 married couples to determine factors that predict if a marriage will last or not. Their study found that couples who spent more on engagement rings and wedding expenses were more likely to divorce than couples who went for affordable engagement rings and more modest budgets: “Overall, our findings provide little evidence to support the validity of the wedding industry’s general message that connects expensive weddings with positive marital outcomes.”
Here are some of the interesting results from the study:
Affordable engagement rings are a wise investment.
Spending a more modest amount on an engagement ring is linked with a longer-lasting union. Men who spent between $2,000 to $4,000 on an engagement ring had a 1.3 times greater risk of divorce than men who spent between $500 and $2,000.
Budget weddings are prudent.
Though wedding costs continue to rise in the US - according a national survey conducted by TheKnot.com, the average wedding cost was $29,858 in 2013 - keeping expenses low is advisable. Weddings that cost more than $20,000 were more significantly associated with divorce than those with a lower price tag.
The size of the guest list is important.
The study results suggest that couples should strive for budget weddings, but that doesn’t mean you should head to Vegas to elope. Couples who have a large wedding ceremony attendance are more likely to stay married. In fact, couples who elope are 12.5 times more likely to end up splitting than couples who have 200+ guests at their wedding.
A longer courtship relates to a longer marriage.
Couples who dated longer before their engagement were less likely to split than those who dated less than a year (1-2 years: 20% less likely; 3+ years: 39% less likely).
Going on a honeymoon is a good idea.
Book those plane tickets! Couples who took a honeymoon were 41% less likely to get divorced than those who didn’t.
Some conclusions we can draw from the study are:
- Knowing each other well is an essential part of a stable marriage.
- It’s important for a couple to be surrounded by friends and family who support the marriage.
- More expensive is not better when it comes to weddings. Affordable wedding rings and more modest wedding budgets may alleviate the financial stress and debt that can come with more lavish weddings.
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Best Places to Propose in Hartford, CT
Hartford, Connecticut’s capital city, is a small, historic and energetic city located on the Connecticut River. Mark Twain once said of Hartford, “of all the beautiful towns it has been my fortune to see, this is the chief." It’s a romantic place to spend a weekend with your sweetheart, and there are plenty of places to get down on one knee with a diamond ladies’ band. Whether you are interested in food, relaxation or nature, you’ll find just the right place to pop the question.
3 Romantic Places to Propose
1. On a carriage or sleigh ride
No matter what the season, you can plan a storybook marriage proposal just outside the city of Hartford at Wood Acres Farm or Foxglove Farm. Book a hayride or carriage ride in the fall, or cozy up with a sleigh ride in the winter. Ask your driver to stop so you can enjoy the beautiful views of the countryside, and ask her to marry you. Celebrate with a glass of champagne or a cup of hot cocoa afterward!
2. At a New England winery
Connecticut features a cool-climate growing region and produces a flavorful selection of red and white wines, such as cabernet franc, pinot gris and riesling. Learn more about the Connecticut Wine Trail, and call one of the 25 wineries in the area to plan a picture-perfect proposal. Arrange to sample a few of her favorite wines at a private tasting, and ask her to be your wife when it’s just the two of you savoring a glass.
Over a memorable meal
ON20 is one of Hartford’s most romantic fine dining restaurants, located in the heart of downtown, with views of the Connecticut River. Reserve an intimate table with a window view. Start with a glass of wine or a creative house cocktail, then indulge in a multi-course gourmet feast. Splurge on the daily chef’s tasting menu or try the eggplant and zucchini risotto with mozzarella di bufala or the roasted hanger steak with blue cheese fondue and vegetables. Propose over dessert and champagne or on a post-dinner stroll.
What do you think the best places to propose in Hartford are?
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3 Fall Proposal Ideas to Fit Her Style
Just as there is a beautiful engagement ring set out there that will fit your bride-to-be’s style perfectly, there is also a wedding proposal that will be tailored to her tastes. Get started on your plans with some of these ideas!
Sweet & Simple Autumn Proposal Ideas
If you and your lady can’t get enough of the great outdoors, find a way to incorporate this love into your proposal. This is a beautifully simple plan that can be executed on any free Saturday. The only drawback is that you’ll have to be flexible with timing, as it will be dependent on weather.
Tell your girlfriend you’ve planned a secret adventure, and have her wear hiking attire but don’t tell her where you’re going. Pack a picnic with a simple lunch, a bottle of wine and something sweet (that won’t melt) for dessert. Go on a relaxing (probably avoid hardcore climbs unless you’re sure she’s into that kind of challenge) autumn hike or nature walk - pick one of your shared favorite spots or a new location known for its great views or beautiful fall leaves. Hide the ring in a box in your backpack, and take it out at the right moment as you’re both admiring the gorgeous scenery.
If your sweetheart swoons at the mention of wine-paired dinners or can recall in great detail meals she had years ago, she might appreciate a delicious foodie-focused proposal. Plan an evening around her favorite foods or restaurants, mapping out a route where you go to different locations for pre-dinner drinks, appetizers, main dishes and dessert (this works even better if you can stroll from place to place, but a quick drive in between locations is also good). Select the perfect engagement ring set in advance, and have it ready for the dessert and champagne course!
You don’t need skywriting or flash mobs to create a memorable proposal. Plan a romantic night at home that is perfect for just the two of you. Cook a meal that is a step or two above what you would normally attempt, and don’t let her help with anything. Pour her a glass of her favorite beverage, put on some music and let her relax. After dinner, light candles or get a fire going and snuggle up on the couch together. Tell her how much you love her and why you want her to be your wife - or write a heartfelt letter in advance and give it to her before you propose if you’re afraid of getting tongue-tied!
What are your romantic fall proposal ideas?
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Marriage Advice from the World’s Longest-Married Couples, Part 2
Sometimes, we all need a little reassurance about the decisions we make in our lives- especially the important ones. And is there a decision more important than who you choose to spend the rest of your life with? I certainly don’t think so. Marriage can be scary, and it’s definitely hard work. But just because it’s hard doesn’t mean it’s impossible.
In fact, some couples are lucky to spend almost their entire lives married to the person they love after they exchange his and hers rings on their wedding day. And, if you’re anything like me, getting advice from these couples instantly reassures me and brightens my day. That’s why I decided to do another post with marriage advice from some of the world’s longest-married couples. Make sure to check out the first post, too!
1. Sally and Joseph Littlewood
These two lovebirds met a whopping 81 years ago at the local hop. That night, he took her for a walk, bought her a Mars bar, and whisked her off her feet. They married in 1939, which means they've been husband and wife for a mind-blowing 75 years. They’ve made it through a lot during their marriage, including a time when they weren’t able to see each other for six years during World War II. Here’s some advice they have for couples looking to exchange one of our customizable ring sets:
- “Argue. Argue lots but always remember to get over it.”
- Know what you want -- “If you’re going to move in with someone, or marry them, you have to know you love them. Everyone is getting divorced these days. They have quick marriages and I just think people do not have what they want.”
2. Lee and Morty Kaufman
This two didn’t exchange his and hers rings until later in life, but they’ve still had a marriage that most of us dream about. You might recognize them from a 2013 Swiffer commercial. In that commercial, they rave about their 44 years of marriage, and it’s clear from the way they talk and look at each other that they adore one another. Here is some of the marriage advice they gave.
- “You have to look out for each other, you really do. If you want a successful marriage, you have to let each other know you love each other, and you have to take care of each other — and we do."
- “We've always just shared what's on our minds with each other in good times and in less-than-perfect times, and that's how we've stuck together so long."
- “Having a little bit of structure if key. We each have our own hobbies and interests -- but make time to do things with each other and friends and family on a regular basis.”
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Tips for Planning a Wedding Last Minute: Little Details, Part 2
As your wedding day approaches, there are a thousand little details competing for your attention. If you are planning a wedding on a short timeline, these details can seem magnified and overwhelming, but don’t despair! We’ve got you covered on: picking a venue, making a selection from gorgeous gold wedding ring sets, finding a dress and starting to narrow down all these last-minute details.
With a few meticulous lists and some help from friends and family, you’ll have it all under control so you can enjoy your beautiful day.
More Little Details for Your Wedding Day
1. Get your marriage license.
Oh that tiny thing? You’d be surprised how easy it is to forget about the legal piece of your wedding slip your mind! Each state has different rules, requirements and waiting periods, so look these up well in advance. For example, when my husband and I got married in Louisiana, I had to order a certified copy of my birth certificate from the county where I was born in California, which took weeks. Call the office in advance to make sure you have everything you need.
2. Make a master wedding-day agenda.
A general rule of thumb is that everything will take a little longer than you think it will when planning a wedding. Ask all of your vendors what timeframes they recommend, as they have valuable expertise to draw from. Think five women can get hair and make-up done in two hours? Think again! Add in some buffer time for each step to cut down on frantic rushing. Write up an agenda and email and print out copies for everyone who is part of the wedding. Have your coordinator (or whichever trusted person you designate taskmaster) keep each step running smoothly.
3. Make a list of items that need to go to the venue or hotel
It’s best to work on this list over the course of a few days, as you will remember little things as you go. Keep a notebook or phone app handy to jot items down as you think of them. Categorize items by steps in the agenda and/or venue, and make note of who is responsible for each. For example, the best man may be in charge of getting the gold wedding band sets to the venue, but the maid of honor is responsible for all hair, make-up and clothes items that need to go to the hotel room.
4. Create tip envelopes
This is a detail you could easily overlook during a whirlwind wedding day. Look at your list of vendors, and decide who you want to tip and how much. Put together labeled envelopes sealed with checks for each vendor, and give them to your wedding coordinator or point person. It’s a good idea to set aside a bit of emergency cash and a checkbook for unforeseen circumstances.
What last-minute tips do you have for planning a wedding?
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